First, I invite you to read Chris’ wonderfully open and insightful comment to “Grieving At My Own Pace” before reading this.<\/p>\n
Yes, our culture has for a long time and still says to men, “Don’t cry. Be strong.” This destructive message and pressure flies in the very opposite direction of how we (all humans) are made: to release all emotion, whether it’s laughter because of joy or tears because of pain.<\/p>\n
Between 1996 and 2000 I went through my fourth, fifth and sixth knee operations. It was an extremely painful time. The combination of the long-term physical pain along with the sadness of knowing that I could never again do things I greatly loved (running, tennis, etc.) produced a form of a broken heart and deep grieving. I was struggling because I didn’t have enough outlets…healthy ways of releasing the pain that was building in me.<\/p>\n
During the course of having physical therapy after my sixth operation, the therapist told me about a certain technique that releases pain, which gets stored in our bodies. She explained that pain gets “bottled up” in tissue called fascia<\/em>.<\/p>\n Each of the two fascia release treatments I had was a profound experience and proved to me just how the body, mind, heart and soul needs to release pain. After the treatments, the pain transference I had to my “good” knee left and I gained more degrees of flexion with my new knee than what could be gained in three weeks of PT.<\/p>\n I learned so much. During those difficult years, I should have cried more. I should have had some one to talk to; a really close friend I could open up with throughout that time. I should have gotten more than just the little pain management counseling that I did.<\/p>\n What are the ways you have or might consider letting out the pain?<\/p>\n On a scale of one to ten (ten being the greatest extent of letting the pain out), how would you rate yourself? Has this changed over time?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" First, I invite you to read Chris’ wonderfully open and insightful comment to “Grieving At My Own Pace” before reading this. Yes, our culture has for a long time and still says to men, “Don’t cry. Be strong.” This destructive message and pressure flies in the very opposite direction of how we (all humans) are […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":19,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-55","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/fathersforever.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/55","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/fathersforever.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/fathersforever.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fathersforever.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/19"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fathersforever.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=55"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/fathersforever.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/55\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/fathersforever.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=55"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fathersforever.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=55"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fathersforever.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=55"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}