Steve’s comment to “Grieving At My Own Pace” reflects how vastly different two people can grieve the same loss.

I read in his words and in his tone something I have come to find an important quality in how spouses grieve “together.” In a word: respect.

It’s important that I respect the way my wife grieves. It’s very important to me that she respects the way I grieve, too.

The respect provides in its own way messages of courtesy, honor, and a regard that emulates love.